An Invisible Thread: The True Story of an 11-Year-Old Panhandler, a Busy Sales Executive, and an Unlikely Meeting with Destiny Paperback - 2012

Introduction

The boy stands alone on a sidewalk in Brooklyn and this is what he sees: a woman running for her life, and another woman chasing her with a hammer. He recognizes one woman as his fatherâÈçs girlfriend. The other, the one with the hammer, he doesnâÈçt know.

The boy is stuck in something like hell. He is six years old and covered in small red bites from chinchesâÈ'bedbugsâÈ'and he is woefully skinny due to an unchecked case of ringworm. He is so hungry his stomach hurts, but then being hungry is nothing new to him. When he was two years old the pangs got so bad he rooted through the trash and ate rat droppings and had to have his stomach pumped. He is staying in his fatherâÈçs cramped, filthy apartment in a desolate stretch of Brooklyn, sleeping with stepbrothers who wet the bed, surviving in a place that smells like death. He has not seen his mother in three months, and he doesnâÈçt know why. His world is a world of drugs and violence and unrelenting chaos, and he has the wisdom to know, even at six, that if something does not change for him soon, he might not make it.

He does not pray, does not know how, but he thinks, Please donâÈçt let my father let me die. And this thought, in a way, is its own little prayer.

And then the boy sees his father come up the block, and the woman with the hammer sees him too, and she screams, âÈêJunebug, where is my son?!âÈë

The boy recognizes this voice, and he says, âÈêMom?âÈë

The woman with the hammer looks down at the boy, and she looks puzzled, until she looks harder and finally says, âÈêMaurice?âÈë

The boy didnâÈçt recognize his mother because her teeth had fallen out from smoking dope.

The mother didnâÈçt recognize her son because he was shriveled from the ringworm.

Now she is chasing Junebug and yelling, âÈêLook what you did to my baby!âÈë

The boy should be frightened, or confused, but more than anything what the boy feels is happiness. He is happy that his mother has come back to get him, and because of that he is not going to dieâÈ'at least not now, at least not in this place.

He will remember this as the moment when he knew his mother loved him.



Chapter 1: Spare Change


âÈêExcuse me, lady, do you have any spare change?âÈë

This was the first thing he said to me, on 56th Street in New York City, right around the corner from Broadway, on a sunny September day.

And when I heard him, I didnâÈçt really hear him. His words were part of the clatter, like a car horn or someone yelling for a cab. They were, you could say, just noiseâÈ'the kind of nuisance New Yorkers learn to tune out. So I walked right by him, as if he wasnâÈçt there.

But then, just a few yards past him, I stopped.

And thenâÈ'and IâÈçm still not sure why I did thisâÈ'I came back.

I came back and I looked at him, and I realized he was just a boy. Earlier, out of the corner of my eye, I had noticed he was young. But now, looking at him, I saw that he was a childâÈ'tiny body, sticks for arms, big round eyes. He wore a burgundy sweatshirt that was smudged and frayed and ratty burgundy sweatpants to match. He had scuffed white sneakers with untied laces, and his fingernails were dirty. But his eyes were bright and there was a general sweetness about him. He was, I would soon learn, eleven years old.

He stretched his palm toward me, and he asked again, âÈêExcuse me, lady, do you have any spare change? I am hungry.âÈë

What I said in response may have surprised him, but it really shocked me.

âÈêIf youâÈçre hungry,âÈë I said, âÈêIâÈçll take you to McDonaldâÈçs and buy you lunch.âÈë

âÈêCan I have a cheeseburger?âÈë he asked.

âÈêYes,âÈë I said.

âÈêHow about a Big Mac?âÈë

âÈêThatâÈçs okay, too.âÈë

âÈêHow about a Diet Coke?âÈë

âÈêYes, thatâÈçs okay.âÈë

âÈêWell, how about a thick chocolate shake and French fries?âÈë

I told him he could have anything he wanted. And then I asked him if I could join him for lunch.

He thought about it for a second.

âÈêSure,âÈë he finally said.

We had lunch together that day, at McDonaldâÈçs.

And after that, we got together every Monday.

For the next 150 Mondays.

His name is Maurice, and he changed my life.

***

Why did I stop and go back to Maurice? It is easier for me to tell you why I ignored him in the first place. I ignored him, very simply, because he wasnâÈçt in my schedule.

You see, I am a woman whose life runs on schedules. I make appointments, I fill slots, I micromanage the clock. I bounce around from meeting to meeting, ticking things off a list. I am not merely punctual; I am fifteen minutes early for any and every engagement. This is how I live; it is who I amâÈ'but some things in life do not fit neatly into a schedule.

Rain, for example. On the day I met MauriceâÈ'September 1, 1986âÈ'a huge storm swept over the city, and I awoke to darkness and hammering rain. It was Labor Day weekend and the summer was slipping away, but I had tickets to the U.S. Open tennis tournament that afternoonâÈ'box seats, three rows from center court. I wasnâÈçt a big tennis fan, but I loved having such great seats; to me, the tickets were tangible evidence of how successful IâÈçd become. In 1986 I was thirty-five years old and an advertising sales executive for USA Today, and I was very good at what I did, which was building relationships through sheer force of personality. Maybe I wasnâÈçt exactly where I wanted to be in my lifeâÈ'after all, I was still single, and another summer had come and gone without me finding that someone specialâÈ'but by any standard I was doing pretty well. Taking clients to the Open and sitting courtside for free was just another measure of how far this girl from a working-class Long Island town had come.

But then the rains washed out the day, and by noon the Open had been postponed. I puttered around my apartment, tidied up a bit, made some calls, and read the paper until the rain finally let up in mid-afternoon. I grabbed a sweater and dashed out for a walk. I may not have had a destination, but I had a definite purposeâÈ'to enjoy the fall chill in the air and the peeking sun on my face, to get a little exercise, to say good-bye to summer. Stopping was never part of the plan.

And so, when Maurice spoke to me, I just kept going. Another thing to remember is that this was New York in the 1980s, a time when vagrants and panhandlers were as common a sight in the city as kids on bikes or moms with strollers. The nation was enjoying an economic boom, and on Wall Street new millionaires were minted every day. But the flip side was a widening gap between the rich and the poor, and nowhere was this more evident than on the streets of New York City. Whatever wealth was supposed to trickle down to the middle class did not come close to reaching the cityâÈçs poorest, most desperate people, and for many of them the only recourse was living on the streets. After a while you got used to the sight of themâÈ'hard, gaunt men and sad, haunted women, wearing rags, camped on corners, sleeping on grates, asking for change. It is tough to imagine anyone could see them and not feel deeply moved by their plight. Yet they were just so prevalent that most people made an almost subconscious decision to simply look the other wayâÈ'to, basically, ignore them. The problem seemed so vast, so endemic, that stopping to help a single panhandler could feel all but pointless. And so we swept past them every day, great waves of us going on with our lives and accepting that there was nothing we could really do to help.

There had been one homeless man I briefly came to know the winter before I met Maurice. His name was Stan, and he lived on the street off Sixth Avenue, not far from my apartment. Stan was a stocky guy in his midforties who owned a pair of wool gloves, a navy blue skullcap, old work shoes, and a few other things stuffed into plastic shopping bags, certainly not any of the simple creature comforts we take for grantedâÈ'a warm blanket, for instance, or a winter coat. He slept on a subway grate, and the steam from the trains kept him alive.

One day I asked if heâÈçd like a cup of coffee, and he answered that he would, with milk and four sugars, please. And it became part of my routine to bring him a cup of coffee on the way to work. IâÈçd ask Stan how he was doing and IâÈçd wish him good luck, until one morning he was gone and the grate was just a grate again, not StanâÈçs spot. And just like that he vanished from my life, without a hint of what happened to him. I felt sad that he was no longer there and I often wondered what became of him, but I went on with my life and over time I stopped thinking about Stan. I hate to believe my compassion for him and others like him was a casual thing, but if IâÈçm really honest with myself, IâÈçd have to say that it was. I cared, but I didnâÈçt care enough to make a real change in my life to help. I was not some heroic do-gooder. I learned, like most New Yorkers, to tune out the nuisance.

***

Then came Maurice. I walked past him to the corner, onto Broadway, and, halfway to the other side in the middle of the avenue, just stopped. I stood there for a few moments, in front of cars waiting for the light to change, until a horn sounded and startled me. I turned around and hustled back to the sidewalk. I donâÈçt remember thinking about it or even making a conscious decision to turn around. I just remember doing it.

Looking back all these years later, I believe there was a strong, unseen connection that pulled me back to Maurice. ItâÈçs something I call an invisible thread. It is, as the old Chinese proverb tells us, something that connects two people who are destined to meet, regardless of time and place and circumstance. Some legends call it the red string of fate; others, the thread of destiny. It is, I believe, what brought Maurice and I to the same stretch of sidewalk in a vast, teeming cityâÈ'just two people out of eight million, somehow connected, somehow meant to be friends.

Look, neither of us is a superhero, nor even especially virtuous. When we met we were just two people with complicated pasts and fragile dreams. But somehow we found each other, and we became friends.

And that, you will see, made all the difference for us both.

Laura Schroff is a former advertising sales executive who worked for over thirty years with several major media companies and publications, including Time Inc. and People. Her book, An Invisible Thread, became an instant New York Times bestselling book and later was a #1 New York Times and international bestseller. As a keynote speaker at over 300 events for schools, charity organizations, libraries, and bookstores, Laura encourages her audience to look for their own invisible thread connections and highlights the importance of opening up their eyes and hearts to the opportunities where they can make a difference in the lives of others. She lives in Westchester, New York, with her feisty poodle, Emma.

Alex Tresniowski is a writer and bestselling author who lives and works in New York. He was a writer for both Time and People magazines, handling mostly human-interest stories. He is the author or coauthor of more than twenty books. For more about this story and the author, please visit AlexTres.com.